NLP & Hypnotherapy Can Build Your Self-Confidence

A social phobia is a fear of interacting with others on a social level. Examples would be imagining others are looking at you while waiting in line at a checkout, talking in front of other people, or even fear of talking on the phone. Self-confidence is a demeanor that allows people to have decisive, yet realistic views of themselves and their predicament. Self-confident people have faith in their own know-how, have a general sense of control over their lives, and have belief that, within reason, they will be able to do what they want to do. Confidence is a demeanor that is conditioned through experiences. When a person experiences success, that person will tend to expect success at his/her endeavors. And that expectation will cause a feeling of confidence. As an example: A young man wants to be a prizefighter, so he gets a manager and a trainer. His manager will not arrange a bout until he has developed enough skill and stamina. And even then, the manager will only put him up against a challenger that he knows his fighter can crush. When his fighter beats the contender, he is successful, and starts to gain self-confidence in his fighting skills. With each encounter, the manager puts his contender up against an adversary who is only a slightly better competitor then the last, but not good enough to beat his gladiator. By the end of the third fight, the young contestant begins to expect to win his fourth, and so his confidence continues to increase. This scenario continues to repeat itself. And as long as the fighter contestant continues to win, his expectations of success, and his feelings of self-confidence will continue to accrue. If a person who has a long history of success and feelings of confidence does fail, they still tend to expect success the next time out. Conversely, when a person who is weak in the confidence department fails, they tend to lose confidence, and begin to expect failure, which often becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Having true self-confidence doesn't mean that individuals will be able to do everything. People, who have true self-confidence, usually have expectations that are sensible. Even when some of their expectations are not met, they continue to be positive and to accept themselves. People, who are not self-confident, tend to lean unreasonably on the acceptance of others in order to feel self-assured. They tend to avoid taking risks because they fear failure. They put themselves down and tend to discount or ignore compliments that they do receive. On the other side of the coin, confident people are willing to risk the disapproval of others because they generally have faith in their own potential. They tend to accept themselves; and they don't feel that they have to conform in order to be approved. Just because a person feels self-confidence in one or more aspects of their life, doesn't mean that they will feel self-confident in every single part of their life. For example, a person might feel self-confident about their athletic talents, but not feel confident as far as members of the opposite sex are involved, such as in a dating situation, or social relationships. I