MY MOTHER'S CRIPPLING SUCCESS IN LIFE

At age 82, any other woman would have retired in her small cottage house, after having enjoyed the better part of her life during her youthful days. But my mother who was very hard working did not relent in her effort, she rather persevered and made sure her dreams never went unfulfilled. She didn’t spare her favourite jazz music which was part of her entire life, most especially when she was feeling lonely.

She does almost everything by herself and calls me occasionally for help when she needed extra energy to lift any heavy object. She does all her domestic chores without any help, including cooking, washing as well as exercising her body each morning before taking her usual breakfast. This is an age whereby anybody would have given up in life and taken a rest. But surprisingly my mother was a very healthy mom who gives me some pieces of advice. I quite remember when she called me one early morning and told me to work very hard and take good care of her when she is incapacitated.

That was the day I realized that life was not as rosy as I thought it should be and so I have to shoulder that responsibility until she passes away. In our African culture parents normally depend on their children when they become old because there are no old age centers to care for them. My mother was very disciplinary and the wicked mom whom I thought she was when I was a kid and has to endure her training. As a family of six we weren’t particularly heroic as I remember, we were rather very cool and respectful. She raised us alone when our father was not available to take up the collective responsibility. Our father had abandoned us and had gone to our home town to inherit his brother’s property. That was not part of the usual system of inheritance in our custom and tradition, but the children of his late brother had asked my father to come home to inherit his brother’s estate. So he left us unceremoniously and went into the village while the entire family fell apart with every one trying to fend for himself. So his attention in caring for us was absent.
My mother who took up the responsibility was very strict in inculcating good family values and discipline in our life which had shaped our character towards the future. She was the definitive emotional focus for all of us as she was very bold to use the cane when we were at fault. She will cane us very furiously until we cried loud to disturb neighbours around. I do remember those days when she uses anything she lays her hands on to whip us regardless of the pain it inflicted on us. Now I’ve seen that she was the one who had kept us and everything together while having to deal with all kinds of frustrations which she never revealed to us until we grew up into adult. She told us about the family tree, some family members and how they tried to influence my father to marry another woman. In that case my father accepted their plan but she foiled the plan.

Dad’s attitude towards us was very inimical, when he left us for almost ten years during my childhood. He reappeared from no where to beg my mother to forgive and accept him back. My mother loves him very much despite his behaviour so she later accepted him but on one condition that, my father will pay up the accumulated schools fees of my siblings for the past ten years during his absent. He paid up the bills and bought four pieces of cloths for her which she accepted and allowed him into the family. Despite that I was not happy with him until after sometimes, because he has not treated us kindly atoll. When my mother slipped and fell into a hot cooking pot some twenty years ago, I was then fifteen years of age, and the only child who nursed her until she recovered from the pain. Even with that she was not discouraged in life, she successfully managed her own business with her limited educational background. The proceeds from her trading business had kept us going on in life for all this years; paying for our school fees and other bills in the house.

During the latter days in her life my mother celebrated her 80th birthday with a big fanfare. It was a day I will always recollect in my memory. It all started with a special church service at the Presbyterian Church followed by a grand durbar and the cutting of the giant birthday cake. The birthday cake was shaped in a heart-like form which was presented by our second brother on behalf of the children to signify our love for her.
Among the invitees were her contemporaries who thronged the party ground with the usual old fashion style which the young guys of today consider it archaic; but which seems to be resurfacing in this modern-day of dressing. During the cause of the gathering and while the music was blasting, one of the invitees got up and got hold of the microphone and offered to make a short speech to the audience. He recounted his youthful days when he proposed to marry my mother and when she refused. He persistently pressed on with the hope that my mother would eventually change her mind, but my mom did not accept her proposal. So he conducted an investigation only to realize that she was already engaged to my father. He became disappointed and this accounted for his inability to marry until after ten years, when he could no longer cope with the single life. He told the full story of their youthful days and the exciting memories of the past and how he got attracted to the beauty and admiration of my mother. He then drank two full glasses of whisky and opened the floor with an old-time sarcastic ‘boogie’ dance to the rhythm of the ‘highlife’ music, which was blasting from the two giant speakers. In fact I was very amazed at that fantastic dance which was called ‘old man boogie’ dance during their youthful days.
After that my mother also told her story about her struggle in taking care of us as well as attending to her business alone. This was an inspiration to other invitees who gave her a warm applause and encouraged her to continue with the struggle. Although she passed away, her memories can not be forgotten because she left a very strong mark for us to emulate and guide us in future.

FKF HORIZON CONSULT

FKF HORIZON
Tour Operators and Business Services.

Seeing is believing; Expand Your Horizon and feel the heartbeat of your dream destinations.

P.O.Box co-57 Tema.
Ghana.
Tel +233-24-3566315
       
Email-fredfricky@gmail.com

F.K.F HORIZON CONSULT is a travel and tourism company which was registered and incorporated in Ghana with a registration No BN-52,632D.

Operating from a small office complex with qualified and dedicated tour and marketing guys, we are ready to assist you make the rightful choice. The unforgettable choice of feeling the heartbeat of your dream destinations in Ghana is our ultimate goal.

As a leading tour operating company in Ghana, we also offer flexible, affordable and attractive services to meet your tastes and preferences.

Our services include workers’ tours, family visits, leisure tours, study tours, associations or group tours to many exciting tourist attractions such as;

1 HISTORICAL SLAVE CASTLES-
Relics of slave trade. Explore the slave castle. See the ‘THE POINT OF NO RETURN’. Enjoy quality food and lobsters. Beach walking. Sun bathing. Water skating etc

2 KAKUM NATIONAL PARK –
Walk on canopy walkway. Bird Watching. Honey Extracting. Quality local foods and Snacks. Cultural Drumming and Dancing.

3 CAPE THREE POINT
Cruising to the Oil Rig. Climb the light house. Visit the crocodile pond.

4 NZULEZU –
Discover the promise land. River cruising. Kayaking. Fishing. Bird Watching. Gorgeous mangrove swamps.

5 PAGA CROCODILE POND-Life encounter with crocodile. Totally gorgeous country side. Exciting adventure. Good food and relaxation.

6 TAGBO FALLS –Cool and serene place. Climb the mountain ‘Afadzato’. Feel the friendly Monkeys at ‘Tafi Atome’

7 THE VOLTA LAKE-
Luxury cruising. Natural and serene environment. Good quality food on board. Sight seeing. Natural breeze and dedicated crew on board. Memorable overnight stay. Unforgettable local music

8 BUSUA BEACH RESORT –Sun Bathing. Ocean Cruising. Water skating. Exciting Fishing. Hiking. Cultural Drumming and dancing etc.

9 BUABENG FIEMA-Encounter with Monkeys. Experience the Village life. Bird Watching. Majestic country side



We offer Services as follows;
ECO-ADVENTURE TOURS
ECO-CULTURAL TOURS
LEISURE TOURES
SENIOR CITIZEN TOURS
STUDENTS TOURES
GROUP TOURS
BBEACH RESORT & ADVENTURE TOURS

We also arrange for;
HOTEL RESERVATION
TOUR VILLAGE STAY
TOUR GUIDES OR INFORMATION
INSURANCE COVER
ADEQUATE SECURITYOur charges are very affordable but negotiable and 5% discount is allowable for a group of twenty (20) members and more.

For more Enquires and Bookings, kindly contact Mr Fred on +233-24-3566315 or +233-21925646 or mail- fredfricky@gmail.com for quick response.Please call and meet our smart officers for bookings and tour fixing.

Office Location; Ash, Lebanon H/No 105A Z2, Tema.

WHAT DO WOMEN WANT TO KNOW ABOUT MEN

Men and Women exhibits different attitude towards each other when they are in a relationship. Some school of thought has the view that the reverse part of a man’s behaviour can be found in a woman. While men are generally fascinated by what they see around them, women are swollen headed by what they hear and this goes a long way to stimulate them into action. In this case when women read passionate or sex related stories, they are also consumed and act accordingly from what they hear. On the other hand men are attracted by appearance and shape of women and they will want to get at it. This goes to show how they react to stimuli as a result of their sense of seeing and touching.
Now the fact is; are there many things or characteristics that women are yearning to know about men? Some women think they have learnt a lot about their men, but they still need to go the extra mile to delve into the total behaviour of their men. When women are fully aware of the behaviour of their men, they will no longer be worried when they find out any suspicious move. In this case there are certain characteristics of men which women are yearning to know, and these are,

1. Why do men Watch porn?-
Watching pornography is a constant behaviour of some men who are stimulated by what they see on the internet or in magazines. Some men like to watch pornography to satisfy their curiosity or taste for varieties and compare with their women. As adventurous as they are, they will not relent in their effort in looking out for something new to rejuvenate their taste. When men become addicted to watching porn, it actually stimulates them to go ahead and practice it. Women should however keep on urging their husbands to put a stop to watching porn videos, magazines or films. However, they shouldn’t feel betrayed when they find their husband in that act but should find a better way of dealing with the problem by persuading their husband to seek counseling if possible.

2. Why do men send dirty mails to girls?
Men do send dirty mails to girls, but that is a fun loving game and women should take it cool. There is nothing serious about that and women should not be worried about that behavior. When a man sends a mail to his woman which reads like this “you have a big ass and a big bombs”, that is just for fun, and the woman can also reply by saying “check your small pussy which roles loosely in my ass hole”. This can put the man off when he knows that his woman has found a suitable reply for his dirty mails. In this case your man will take it easy in sending you that kind of hurting mails. But ladies should not take it serious when they receive such mails, they should know that it is for fun and must treat them as such.

3. Why do men gossip about women?
Some believe that gossiping is women’s job and so they normally attribute women to that kind of behaviour. Women usually talk a lot about what they do, and so they don’t normally gossip about men, they rather talk about themselves, their cloths, hair, home affairs as well as their hobbies. However, when men find themselves in that behaviour of gossiping, it becomes very worrisome for women. Most men also gossip a lot about women and their reasons for gossiping are very funny but that is the fact about their behaviour. When a woman is dressed-up in a very romantic way and passes by; this will not go unnoticed by men who are in a group, and they will not resist making any comment about such a beautiful woman. So it will depend on the appearance of the woman and how she dress-up, how she walks, her make-ups, her looks etc. These are some of the issues that will generate gossips by men.

4 Why do men cheat in a relationship?
This is a million dollar question which many women are struggling to find the reasons why their men cheat. Some women claim that they are doing everything possible for their men to stay glued to them but their men continue to cheat on them. Yes! it is true but there is one particular thing that your man really want. You have to find out and do exactly that, in addition to all other things that you have been doing to satisfy him.
What they really want depend on the one cheating in the relationship. Some are not getting the needed attention from their partners; whiles others are also not having sufficient sexual satisfaction in the relationship. Some also think their women are no longer maintaining their shape and beauty to arouse that sexual feeling they use to have for them during courtship. So this pushes them to look out for beautiful and attractive ladies in town to go out with. These are some of the warning signs for ladies to know if they really want to maintain the relationship going and keep their men indoor. They should actually look out for what their partners want and strive to do exactly that to maintain the relationship.


5. Why do men like playing games?
Men want competition; they want challenge, exposure and are really satisfied when they involve themselves in any challenging games such as playing football, playing golf, swimming etc. They also love adventure and outing to chat with friends. So their passion for games is natural and women have to cope with that. If you realize that your man loves playing golf or any other outdoor games, you have to appreciate ad show your interest and support in that regard. This will encourage him t to achieve more laurels area. This will raise your man’s ego and his attention towards you, knowing very well that you actually appreciate and support what he is doing.

6. Why do men get lazy in the relationship?
A desperate woman will definitely complain about the sudden laziness of her husband after they got married. At first her husband may be very supportive and romantic during courtship, but after they got married and started having kids, she may notice some changes in her husband’s attitude towards the family. In this situation, she may feel rejected when she realizes that her work as a working mother in addition to house chores is having a serious effect on her. This is a serious situation which many women find themselves in, when their husbands are not supportive in the relationship. This is because some men are naturally lazy and do not participate in the house chores. Some also take their women for granted after the marriage and do not sustain the services they use to render during their courtship. It is up to you to have a serious and frank talk with your man. You must negotiate with him and stop nagging because nagging brings out the worst part in everybody. When you negotiate, he will realize that he has to be part of the solution and will eventually side with you. When things are not getting better, you can also seek the help of counselor.

7. What do men think about after sex?
Some women wonder what their men really think about after they have made love to them. Some men find it extremely boring to cuddle their wife anymore after they have had their share. After feeling satisfied, some men don’t think of making love again and so this is the time for them to relax and re-energize themselves after thirty or one hour. Women have to know that their men are just o.k. and so they do not have to press for more because the response may not be favourable. Immediately his mind and concentration on the game will vanish and so he will not need it any more unless after some time.

8. Why men do not cuddle their women very often?
Men are very responsive to sex when they try to embrace and kiss their partner for a longer time. They actually get aroused by kissing or cuddling because their chemistry is very sharp and very responsive to stimulant more than women. On the other hand when a woman is kissing her loved one, it may or may not necessary mean that she is in for sex because a woman’s feelings for sex is not necessary aroused from mere kisses but from serious foreplay and romantic moves that can stimulate her into action. These moves should start early in enough to generate her alertness and arouse her passion for action and not mere kisses. In this case some men do not cuddle very often unless they are in for sex and cuddling actually arouse them into action. So women should take note and know when to fondle their men when they are really in need of action.