How To Get Your Husband To Do The House Chores

Angela is a high profile woman who is always busy throughout her life. In a typical day she wakes up early morning at 4.a.m and takes care of her two daughters, prepare them for school. By 5.a.m she sets off for work in other to beat the huge traffic which starts building up from six o’clock in the morning. She uses a small saloon car which , at least, reduces her struggle to board the public transport each morning By setting off at that time, she reaches her office around 7.30 a.m. after alighting her children in school before proceeding to the office. She closes from work at 5.p.m in the late afternoon rush hours, and gets to the market very quickly to buy some ingredients for cooking. If she does not get to the market on time, she might miss the fresh vegetables, fish and other ingredients which she may need to cook for her family at home. She works in the ministries and stays at Kasoa Estate, A journey of about thirty kilometers from home to work. Angela’s husband is also a busy man, He is an accountant who is working with a private organization and has the responsibly of attending to his work schedule. He leaves the home early in the morning and returns about 7.p.m after balancing up his accounts and attends to other duties in the office. “He knows I cannot cope with a dirty environment and so I will definitely clean the house “Angela said. She is not happy, she feels frustrated and tired but she does not know how to get her husband to do the housework. If she had, that would’ve been the happiest moment in her life. However if you are faced with such a situation, here are some tips you can follow to get your husband to participate in the house chores. However, to share the house chores with your husband equally, and let him do his part while you also do your part is not the best. That will mean that you are dictating the pace and setting up the task as if you are the head of the family. I quite remember when I was a kid; my mother uses to share the house chores for me and other sibling. So each morning, every child knows hi s or her duty and has to do it very quickie before setting off for school. In this case you can set the agenda and get him to accept it and help to participate in the hose work. One will ask, how are you going to set the idea or agenda and carry him along, Try to find out his schedule for the week and see if he has a period to spend at home, Based on this, you can suggest and appeal to him to participate in a specific work that you intend to do. I hope he will be reasonable enough to help. Let him choose what he is comfortable at doing to the best of his ability. You don’t have to suggest any specific task which you may want him to do.. You can allow him the free range to choose the task he is comfortable with. This will enable him to willingly accomplish it to its perfection, For example, If your husband is comfortable in cleaning the room and bathhouse, let him go ahead and do that while you also take care of washing and cooking for the family. After all cleaning of the bathhouse will not be done everyday, but once in a week. Once in a while, he may romantically join you in the kitchen to help you. Whatever effort or contribution he makes; try to reward him with a ‘thank you ‘message. This is very important in marriage. Say thank you to each other for your efforts. You have to appreciate the little effort he puts into the house work. Do not take him for granted and let the picture looks as if he is not doing anything in the house. Show some respect, suggest and appeal to him to assist you. After that you have to appreciate the little effort he puts in, to encourage him to do more. You have to discuss your idea together and allow him to contribute his mind in the discussion when he is part of the decision he will definitely be part of its implementation. When he is part of the problem, will definitely be part o the solution. You cannot all of a sudden, initiate something and expect him to willingly participate. Let him feel comfortable at home, who knows, he may take the initiative without your suggestion. Nagging brings the worst from some one, so it is not the best to keep on nagging at him if he is not willingly doing the house work. You have to take it cool and show some respect to him. If he is around, kindly invite him to join you and not impose it on him. However, it is not the responsibility of you only or your husband to keep the house clean and take care of the children. So both of you must take care of the house for marriage to work. Whenever he demands sex from you, try to be very creative and explore your sex drive outside the bedroom. This will raise his ego to do everything to make you happy. Some women always complain when their husbands demand sex from them. They complain of tiredness, not feeling fine etc; and this may drive their husbands away from them. Your cold attitude may not encourage or compel him to join you when you’re doing the house chores.