Why Do some Husbands lose interest in Sex

Sex in marriage is a form of communication that naturally binds the relationship together. It is a legitimate pleasure which must be done in a friendly and relax atmosphere with a sound mind. Why should a husband feel like making any move when his wife does not look attractive to arouse his interest? When his wife does not keep her shape in check; her make-ups and dressing are no longer attractive. In a situation where his wife will just tie a piece of cloth on her waist, without wearing any dress,and loiter around like a lost child. A situation where rooms as well as kitchen areas are not cleaned up, when house flies were seen hovering around on dirty cooking pots, while dirty cloths are soaked in water for almost a week without washing. These are things that make some husbands lose interest to demand sex from their wives, unless the guy is rather helpful and assists in fixing the household chores. However a husband who is lazy and lacks any sense of responsibilities will rather go out to look for another sexy, slim and attractive young lady who will entertain him in bed. A man who is crazy about that young and attractive lady would spend a lot of money to have sex with her. Married women should present themselves very neat and attractive enough to arouse the sexual feelings of their men. They should put on sexy cloths and mini skirts to attract their husbands while at home. Men are easily attracted by their sight and experiment what they see around them. However, a husband who has lost his job may not have a sound mind to make any move, because there are unpaid bills and school fees which are due. These problems will divert his interest in demanding for sex unless his wife tries to pamper and help him to overcome some of these problems. Nagging does not bring out the best initiative in any human being, it rather dumps the spirit of a person .A nagging wife is like a wild lion that is ready to attack at any least provocation. Wives should be very humble and stop being at the throat of their husbands all the time. Constant nagging can even scare your husband from coming home after close of work. When there is any serious issue to be discussed, a good wife has to find the right time to confront her husband in a tactful and friendly manner. Some husbands are reluctant to demand sex from their wives because they are not getting the right satisfaction they want and so they are forced to try something else outside the marriage. Such a husband may not always accept excuses from his wife, but may definitely sneak out to satisfy himself with another girl. Some husbands lose interest in sex when they are not getting the libido for the act. This cannot be blamed on their wives, but it might be a personal problem which demands medical attention. Psychologically, some guys are confused due to depression and frustrations which actually affect their sexual behaviour. These frustrations can come from the job they are doing or the expected contract which has kept them waiting for long. This means that they have to seek some advice or support to assist them to overcome these problems.

Relatioship; How To Talk To Her For The First Time

There is a sayings that, ‘'if at first you don’t succeed, try again''. This means that success will not come to you on the silver platter unless you really go through hard work and perseverance. So to talk to the girl you really like for the first time requires boldness and tactfulness to arouse her interest. Many guys find it difficult to break the silence and talk, because they entertain some fear of rejection. You may face rejection or unfriendly response but that shouldn’t be a problem, if only and only if you persevere until you finally break the silence. When you approach a girl you want, you have to be flexible and wear a sweet smile on your face and show some friendly attitude. You also have to be straight forward and tactful in your first presentation. You do not have to talk, boast and show your ego, but try to be humble and romantic. Since this is the first time of talking to her, you also have to create a friendly and positive attitude for her to like you. A little bit of humour will create the friendly atmosphere you actually need to get acquainted to each other fast. When talking to her, you don’t have to draw too close to her, not for the first time. Just a little space between you and her will do, since you don’t know each other until that first day. You shouldn’t hug or embrace her until after you have been able to win her to your side. You must keep your distance and appear very neat and sweet to generate her interest to talk to you. You know first impression always counts a lot and so you must be very straight forward and honest in your delivery instead of fumbling. This will enable her to trust you and finally give her heart to you .You must also allow the girl some breathing space for her to express her self but not try to be domineering or authoritative on her. Be very careful not to tell her about your past relationship. This will actually discourage her from talking to you or wanting to enter into any relationship with you. You only have to go straight to the point and introduce yourself first with a warm smile and positive body language that will entice her to respond. Shyness may come since this is your first attempt in talking to her, but you must try to overcome that feeling and master courage to do the talking. You must also be mindful of what you say and not blow out your horn to impress her. This will put her off most especially when she is an introvert and wouldn’t like to date a talkative. This will give you the confidence to know exactly whether she actually wants to be your friend or not. So talking to a girl you want for the first time demands some tactfulness and gentle approach to win her interest and positive response. Go to www.horizontours.getafricaonline.com for more stuffs

Relationship; In Love With Your Best Friend's Spouse

How will you feel when you realized that your best friend’s spouse is in love with you? That will be very difficult to disclose to your best friend for fear of a break-up in the friendship. If your friend’s spouse is admiring you and making sexual advances to entice you, it can be described as a lustful feeling and not a real love. Your friend’s spouse must be suffering from sexual lust, but that shouldn’t be your territory to flex your muzzles around. That is someone’s property, so you do not have to trespass. It is prudent for you to flee from that temptation to maintain good and healthy relationship with your friend. Most especially if you remember the thoughts and emotions you had shared with your friend, you may not like to lose them. A friend in deed is a friend when in need, but love is always blind. Sometimes people behave irrationally, for the sake of love. However, it is not bad to love, but it is bad to have an intimate sexual affair with your friend’s spouse. If that happens, the trust and respect that existed between you and your friend is eroded and replaced by hatred, suspicion and break up. You must also remember that when you throw a ball to the wall, it bounces back to you. There are many ways this temptation can be avoided. Do not visit your friend’s home during his absence. In this case always make sure to visit your friend when he invites you, and not his spouse. Remember that his spouse is not your best friend. If you want to make a phone call to your friend, always call his mobile phone and not his landline. When you are chatting with your friend, do not discuss anything about his or her spouse. Whenever such a topic comes to the fore, kindly avoid it. As much as you show interest in discussing issues concerning his spouse, this might arouse your passion to fall into temptation. Whenever your friend’s spouse invites you for a lunch, try as much as possible to dishonor that invitation with tangible and polite excuses to avoid hurting them. And if you want to honour such an invitation, kindly make a request to attend with your partner. If you don’t have a partner, your family member can be the best substitute. And you have to disclose this information to them, so that they can protect you. Remember that your friend’s spouse is more or less your friend and not your enemy. So you shouldn’t do anything to hurt them, you must be cautious and polite in dealing with them; especially when they are trying to entice you with sexual advances. The level of intimacy between you and your friend’s spouse must be casual.

Reflection-Turning 40

Most at times, a year passes by without noticing my birthday. The only thing I remember is the end of year celebrations. This reminds me of my youthful days when celebrating birthdays were unusual except once in a while, but this time around, my 40th birthday was triggered by my shopping expedition. My mind was fully occupied with the busy schedule for the day when the shopkeeper inquired about today's date which was exactly the same as my birthday. Having discovered that, I was filled with joy and excitement. However I was also sad for not being able to remember the day until after midday. Why should I forget such an important day in my life? I kept on asking myself if I had remembered the day earlier, I would have prepared my favourite dish and garnished it with two boiled eggs to celebrate the day. This also reminds me of my youthful days and that was certainly before the unfortunate July 7th tube station and Metro bus terrorist bombings, I always associated London with Disasters. Oh yes' blame it on my teachers and not me. You see; all the three songs that we learnt in primary school about London, were either London Bridge falling down or London Burning; London Burning; pour water, pour water'. These songs were in our memory so much so that, we sang them on our way home from school. So as I was saying; during our birthdays, our class teacher always asked us to sing a song for a special present. London burning was always part of the main chorus. But thank God that, London Burning is no longer taught in our schools in this modern days. At home, my mother will always prepare my favourite dish and add some two boiled eggs to celebrate with family members. It used to be memorable days in my life but after my mother passed away, I have not enjoyed any wonderful treats during my birthdays. My dad virtually tries to acknowledge my birthdays but the usual delicacy was always missing in the celebrations. In those days, my grandma will knock at my door very early in the morning to wish me a happy birthday. She will light a white candle and place it on my bedside after the morning devotion. The most remarkable memory which saddened my heart was that, this was my fortieth birthday and since there is a saying that life begins at forty. I would have celebrated it on a grand style if I had the means but my usual dish would have been missing again because my mom was the only person who had captured my taste during my birthdays. In those days my younger siblings would join me very early in the morning with the usual happy birthday song and some parcels for the celebration. Lonk www.horizontours.getafricaonline.com for more stuffs

Busua Beach Resort

Located in the western coastal belt of Ghana, Busua is a small town which has a different feel from other towns and villages along the coast. The Busa Beach resort is a spectacular attraction which has a serene environment coupled with its gorgeous sandy beaches. A village called Busua is sandwiched between Butre and Discove which is about 30km drive from Takoradi in the western region of Ghana. Busua beach is one of the safest places along the Atlantic coast for water sports, and it seems to be one of the hotspots for surfing, where you can see fresh swaying coconut trees predominantly lined-up along the entire sandy beach, serving as a protective cover in the scorching sun. This makes relaxation more enjoyable mostly at weekends or public holydays where many activities are organized by the town folks to entertain visitors and other guest. As a regular traveler, I really enjoyed the place when I made my first trip to Busua , I had the urge to experience the numerous adventures while taking a ride on the South Atlantic ocean or taking part in other outdoor activities such as the beach walk and water sports. I and my two other colleagues joined the luxurious small local boat owned by the Busua Beach tour operators. Although, we felt a little bit jittery, we were very confident as we put on our safety jackets provided by the tour company. We sailed through to the inner waters of the South Atlantic Ocean which is about 10 nautical miles from the shore until we met very enterprising fishermen on sea who were harvesting their daily catch for sale. With the crystal-ocean kissing our feet, we made our way further into the deeper waters, where we saw different species of colored fishes. On the high seas, we met the Ghana security men with their patrol boat who signaled us to return to the shore since we were heading towards dangerous direction. After returning to the Shore, we took our lunch at the Beach restaurant and rested for almost two hours to regain enough energy for the next adventure. I took the local fufu and palm soup while my colleagues also ate some plain rice and vegetable stew. The food was reassuring and very tasteful as it was a typical local preparation with a sweet aroma. That was not the end until we made our way along the golden-white sandy beach which stretches without interruption to the distant horizon. About 2 km walk on foot, we enjoyed the usual cool breeze from the Atlantic Ocean; we also had encounter with no-one on our way unless the fresh coconut trees which were swaying from left to right as a result of the high breeze. Soon we had no choice but to return back after we felt exhausted and could no longer go further with the beach-walk. Busua boasts of a variety of hotel accommodation, small seafood restaurants, and a long sandy beach that is clean and safe for swimming and other water sports. In fact, Busua is considered to be one of the safest places along the Atlantic coast for water sports, and it seems to be one of the hotspots for surfing: there is even a ‘Black Star Surf Club’ at the beach. Local shops are available for purchasing souvenirs, renting surfboards, and renting bicycles. The town roads are well suited for cycling. Busua has several well-trained local tour guides: For more enquires and Bookings, contact FKF horizon Consult +233-24 3566 315.

Relationship;- How To Choose Your Right Partner

If wishes were horses, beggars will stop riding after they have fulfilled their cherished dream of getting what they really want in life. This is the limitation of capturing your heart's desire. The desire of getting what you really want and not what is readily available. Choosing your right partner is not really a problem, but the problem is how to sustain the relationship and make it work for you. When you are desperately looking for a partner, you have to start by making a lot of friends and out of that, you propose to the one you really want to spend your life with. However, it will be very suicidal if you master that courage to propose and your proposal is turned down. Can you imagine how you will really feel when you do not succeed? You only have to keep on trying until you succeed. The question is, how will you know whether the one you have chosen is your right partner; whether they really love you? Real love is a natural feeling which develops as time goes on, but the one who loves you will always express his or her concern for you. They will be ready to die for you, to share your difficult or joyful moment with you. In this case, choosing the right partner will depend on the criteria you set in judging anybody that comes into your life. When you are very ambitious and set a high standard for yourself, you have to work at it. You know what you really want, so you don't have to give up when your first attempt is turned down. You have to keep on trying until you finally grab your taste. You don't have to settle down with anybody that comes your way, even when you are desperately in need, try to control your feelings and allow time to work it out for you. However, you can also look at the bits and pieces of your previous relationship and use them as a way of setting standard for your new catch. Some people turn to ignore some nice guys or pretty ladies around their area and go out there looking for Mr or Mrs right outside their community. The guy who is very familiar with you, nice, sincere and smiles at you may be the right person to fall in love with, But how will you know; unless you make the move and propose to the person. Even when no one is coming forward, you have to go out there and propose to anyone that meets your prescription but you will actually face rejections. Rejections are not the end of the world,so when you are turned down, just go ahead, and you might succeed the next time around. You can also use following strategies when selecting your right partner, but it will depend upon your effort in making your choice. You really have to examine yourself first and know exactly what you really want. But most at times, your wants may be different from your choice. Set a standard or criteria for the type of person you want to choose as a partner and work at it vigorously. Do not forget to realize that it is not easy or it may not come to you automatically. So you have to go and look for it until you finally grab it. Rejections are inevitable and you must be prepared for it. This should not discourage you but you must endeavour to pursue further and have the positive feeling that, you will succeed. Show love and kindness to anyone you get into contact with, and this will open new doors for you to receive the same kind of love in return. So the possibility of facing rejection may not be frequent. However, it hurts when you do not receive the same love back, but all the same, you have to take the risk and think positively for a big catch. After you have got your right partner, you have to work very hard to sustain the relationship and allow it to work very well. You must look at the threat in the relationship and not the blanket figure of the person you are walking with. The outward appearance of the person may lure you into the relationship, but that is not all; look out for the inner world or the character of your partner and be sure that you have finally chosen your heart’s desire. Be careful of what you say and do not forget to ask as many questions as possible. In this case good communication between you and your partner is very important to know each other very well. You must also have the conviction that you have really chosen what your heart’s desire and not out of desperation. In this case you have to communicate with God to reveal to you about your choice. Since wishes were not horses, you have to work very hard to obtain what you really want and this cannot be achieved without difficult challenges such as rejections.

The Paga Crocofile Pond

P aga is located in the Upper East Region of Ghana, which is closer to the Burkina Faso Border. The place is well noted for its tourist potential, but the main leisure is the Paga crocodile pond which serves as sacred totem of the Kasena people of Paga. There are two options available if you really want to get to Paga. You can take the (one hour twenty minutes) internal flight from Accra to Bolgatanga and continue with a public transport to Paga. Secondly,you can also board the STC luxury coach or other private buses from Accra to Bolgatanga and continue to Paga. I board the intercity STC bus which took me almost 815kilometers from Accra to Bolgatanga. The next 20 km journey to Paga was not long; it was very stressful but the smooth road and comfortable nature of the STC luxury bus actually made it more exciting. I had enough information from Ghana Tourist Board in Bolgatanga before proceeding to Paga. The gate fee for visiting the crocodile pond was bodily displayed on the notice board; that is GH¢5 for foreign tourist and Gh¢3 for local visitors for a tour package to the village .I paid GH¢3 which was really good because I also received additional services such as security, tour guide, and tour information leading to the pond side The right time to visit Paga Crocodile is during the dry season, from August to November each year. The people believe that their souls reside in these crocodiles and so they handle them with care and make sure they do not provoke then. Occasionally, the reptiles come out from the pond to dry up in the scotching sun. They at times, visit homes and compounds of the natives around, but it seems the people are used to these reptiles. They have two ponds, the chief’s pond and the Zenga pond which contain very friendly but fearful crocodiles. I visited the Zenga pond in other to have the feel of the reptiles. The pond keeper was very helpful in explaining to me the method of enticing them to the shore. . The reptiles are normally enticed out of the pond by the whistling of the caretaker and the brandishing of a fowl, which the crocodiles quickly snatch with their snouts. If you are courageous, you can sit on, or hold the beast's tail for a good camera pose. The caretaker charges a fee for the fowl and basic interpretation. He presented a fowl, which I bought, from the local people I held the tail, touched the back when reptile came out her fowl, but was scared and alert in case of any attack. . . I was really excited when I had a real life encounter with the reptile, because there was enough security to protect me and so I had nothing to fear. I also took a tour through the hidden slave market that fed the southern slave selling point at the Nania slave camp. I visited the cultural and craft the village in Paga to witness the creative works of the indigenous people including colorful relics of the chef’s regalia. The rich and healthy vegetation cover and the friendly life encounter with these reptiles also took my tour to the Nania slave camp, the cultural and craft village as well as the chief’s palace as a package. There are good hotels and restaurants in Bogatanga where visitors can lodge and enjoy delicious and mouth watering local or continental dishes before going to Paga. For enquiries and Bookings, contact FKF Horizon Consult on +233 24 3566 315. Or www.horizontours.getafricaonline.com